Developing Social Value To Create Attraction

by Nathan on February 7, 2010 in VN - Framework

Developing Social Value To Create Attraction

‘It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you are not.’

Let me ask you a question…

‘What’s the difference between guy1 who sits in the corner, acting uncertain and is too scared to go and talk to the hot girl he sees by the bar, and guy2 who walks into the room, high fives a few guys, cracks a few jokes, walks up to that same random hot girl, says hi, tickles her, makes her laugh with a few comments and walks away?’

Here are a few interesting answers I got from some friends of mine…

Sandra says: ‘The first one hasn’t been coached by you (laughs)… but I don’t know, if the shy one is cute I’ll go see him’

Ana says: ‘The first one is too shy and the other one acts so secure he is showing that he is really insecure’

Lina says: ‘the first guy displays lack of self-confidence, he doesn’t get girls, while the other guy seems sure of himself, he does what he wants and doesn’t care…’

The difference between both guys there is that Guy2 understands how to interact in a social environment; he develops and portrays social value. Guy2 is a social guy while Guy1 is acting in a very anti-social manner.

Ask yourself this:

When you go out are you acting as a social or anti-social person?

I will ask myself this question every time I start to feel a sense of not wanting to be in a given situation. Anxiety creeps up on even to the most skilled superman.

How you react to such the situation is the key and a real test of your progress.

Definition of SOCIAL:

Noun: a party of people assembled to promote sociability and communal activity.
Adjective: marked by friendly companionship with others.

Definition of ANTI-SOCIAL:

Adjective: unwilling or unable to conform to normal standards of social behaviour.
Adjective: shunning contact with others.

The key to developing Social Value, to having a strong social network of friends and being seen as the life of the party, is to BE SOCIAL - Talk to everyone, you never know who knows who!

(an example of two cool, high value, socially attractive guys…)

By becoming that cool guy who everyone knows, you will generate a lot of Social Value. This is SO attractive to females, also by being social you will also be introduced to twice as many females through your new friends – every hot girl has more than one hot friend close by…

This removes the need to approach random groups of strangers. If you’re a social, fun guy they won’t be strangers for very long.