Enjoying The Single Life

Are you single? Are you enjoying it? Or are you just waiting for ‘miss right’?

Most single people I meet really don’t enjoy been single. It can be anything from the most basic reason like “I can’t be happy alone” to a more subtle reason when thinking about the future they have this image of life with a wife/husband and family etc and they think they can’t be happy until they are there – and achieved ‘success’.

We are conditioned by so many Hollywood movies where the happy ending is all about when the boy and the girl finally meet, or sort things out, and they live happily ever after – or until the movie stops… but then what?

What is the ‘happy end’ of life? When you’re dead? For me personally that’s a bit too late for start being happy. :p

This is deeply embedded in our subconscious, not only by movies and fairy tales but also by our friend and families and society as a whole. We MUST find ‘the right one’ and if we don’t we at least have to find someone who is ‘good enough’.

All this is simply in order to be happy, and if you’re not happy you have to pretend to be happy so everyone else can give you approval for it. I see this over and over again – couples that are not really happy with each other, but the situation is better than nothing…

So you shouldn’t get a girlfriend then?

I’m not saying that, I’m saying DO WHATEVER YOU WANT AS LONG AS YOU ARE HONEST WITH YOURSELF & YOUR ACTIONS.

Start by being happy now, then it’s more likely that you find an incredible girlfriend anyway.

You have to be strong enough to walk your own path, because people will try and push you down from that to make you do whatever THEY think is right.

I think we all know deep inside what is right for us but for many of us taking ‘the easy way out’ and getting any girlfriend is just the easier option – but which is just the bullshit way out in the long run.

For me it’s more of the other way around, I want to feel like ‘I’ve done it all’ before I would ever think of getting into any monogamous relationship with a girl, then I know I can really enjoy her 100% without doubting ‘what if…’

I don’t know if I’ll ever get to that point, but it doesn’t matter for me because I’m enjoying the everyday adventure of my single life!

/ Joachim