Relationship Polarity – Why We Love Women

Have you ever asked yourself why women can’t be more like men? If you have, then you are like most men.

But have you ever thought that this would inevitably lower the attraction? This is in fact true. And it works in both directions.

Quoting from David Deida’s Way of the Superior Man: “A woman’s feminine shine, the energy that moves her body, her utterly refreshing spontaneity and mystery, not to mention her delightful smile, are what attract you”.

Now let’s take a closer look to what he means…

What’s spoken about is the importance of a male and a female side in every intimate relationship.

Having an intimate partner of whom you understand every aspect perfectly and reason with on the same logical and emotional level, sure sounds great.

But this takes away the most fundamental parts of intimacy, polarity and much of the attraction.

I’m going to talk about attraction – but the polarity that is the source of so much of it.

The polarity attraction force works the same way as it does with magnets. For two magnets to be drawn to each other, attract one another and stay that way. You need one positive (+) and one negative (-) side. Two positives or two negatives are just going to repel each other; neither are two neutral sides attracting one another.

Now what does this means in the way of intimate relationships?

A man shall be loved for that he is just a man, the same comes to women. Accept (and embrace!) that your partner is different than you, that you work in two fundamental different ways. Learn that you may never use your own male logic to reason and communicate with her.

Instead, try to understand what she responds positive to; don’t assume that she will like something just because you do. And don’t beat yourself up trying to understand just why she does respond in that particular way.

Come to peace with that she is feminine, and you are masculine. And never try to change that.

So many fights in relationships come from the base of miscommunication – which is often rooting in misunderstandings of your partner’s perception of reality. Again, just because you think your way is crystal clear, it doesn’t mean it is for her. And don’t be mad at her for this.

Do not think I’m speaking about degrading her – or anything in that way!

Remember, different doesn’t have to mean bad or worse. Just different, and that’s in a good way. Because without it we wouldn’t have the energy that binds together us, what makes the sexes so inevitably drawn to each other, just like the magnets.

Myself, I love women. Just because they are women. And I expect my women to love me just because I am a man.

Sebastian
- DatingWorks Intern