Why Body Language Is Important

Why Body Language Is Important

Hey guys!

Today we are going to talk about body language, how important it is and how you can start correcting yours today to get more results in your dating life.

Body language is a broad term for forms of communication using body movements or gestures instead of verbal language.

Statistics differ, but most experts agree it takes us between 90 seconds and four minutes to decide if we like someone in a sexual manner.

And it’s not based on what we say…

Fifty-five per cent of the impression we get from someone comes through our body language

Thirty-eight per cent is from the tone, and speed of how we talk.

And ONLY seven per cent is from what we’re actually saying!

So you can imagine the importance of portraying the right signs to the people you meet, through your voice tone and body language.

Although they are generally not aware of it, many people send and receive non-verbal signals all the time. These signals can indicate what they are really thinking and how they are really feeling.

The technique of ‘reading’ people is used frequently. For example, the idea of mirroring body language to put people at ease is commonly used in interviews. It sets the person being interviewed at ease. Mirroring the body language of someone else indicates that they are being understood.

Are you aware of what your body language tells people about you?

MOST people have no idea how they REALLY appear to the rest of the world.

Here are some key things to become aware of:

Lean Back – never lean into her or the group. If she can’t hear you, just talk louder or let HER lean into you. This is about Social Value. Who is respected more? You or her? The leader never leans in to anyone. He sits back and lets people come and go as they please.

Don’t Fidget – this is just an automatic reaction people have when they get nervous. These are things you won’t notice, until you become AWARE or get them pointed out to you by a close friend.

Before I became aware of how to control my body language, I used to fidget with my right sock whenever I got nervous and sitting down. I know it sounds silly but this was a subconscious habit I used to have, which I became aware of slowly.

Don’t Tense Up – when people get nervous they tend to tense up body parts. I used to tense up my legs so badly that they would cramp up and I would sometimes have to leave the situation!

Stay loose on your feet, bend your knees slightly, and if you ever feel tension in your body just make a conscious effort to relax.

Hand Awareness - this is very important. Where are your hands when you are talking? Where are your hands when she is talking? Keep your hands by your sides when you are listening to her, and use your hands to help with telling the story when you are talking with her.

Of course don’t just stand there like a robot when she is talking, BUT, only move your hands if it is for a reason, and not just because you are nervous and don’t know what else to do with them.

As I’m sure you can imagine anytime you start to feel nervous and you turn that internal feeling into external displays like fidgeting, SHE will notice. Nervousness doesn’t build comfort!

Any movement is GOOD – if it is done on purpose and with the intention of helping the situation of building a connection with her.

It is VERY hard to describe how to use body language. It is best learned though visual stimulation and real life practice.

Go out and watch how guys you see are great with women act, and copy what they do.

Also WATCH James Bond Films. He always takes his time, walks slowly, takes up space, and just IS the man. Go and watch ANY earlier James Bond films and this will give you the BEST idea of what a Naturally Attractive Guy is…

Yours

Nathan Schacherer